{"id":1377,"date":"2012-10-06T01:08:56","date_gmt":"2012-10-06T01:08:56","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=1377"},"modified":"2012-10-17T09:55:24","modified_gmt":"2012-10-17T13:55:24","slug":"where-are-you-going-whos-going-with-you","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=1377","title":{"rendered":"Two questions to ask in every relationship"},"content":{"rendered":"

I have a chance to take a good job offer in another city, but it means possibly having to end my relationship, because my lover and companion does not want to leave where we are now, for lots of reasons. His own good job is here, and also, his children. They are fully grown, but he does maintain a friendship relationship with them. I hate to lose this relationship, but I hate to lose this career opportunity, too. Any thoughts? Barbara M., Peoria, Illiinois <\/strong><\/p>\n

Dear Barbara…CWG suggests that you ask yourself two questions regarding any relationship:
\n1.Where am I going?
\n2. Who\u2019s going with me?<\/p>\n

In that order<\/em>.<\/p>\n

\u201cWhere am I going?\u201d implies that you must listen to yourself…to honor those \u201cgut\u201d feelings.\u00a0 A simple way of doing this is to sit quietly for a moment.\u00a0 Take a few deep breaths, then say, out loud:\u00a0 \u201cI am going to take the job.\u201d<\/p>\n

Pay attention: what are the sensations in your body?<\/p>\n

Next, say, \u201cI am going to stay where I am.\u201d<\/p>\n

Pay attention:\u00a0 what does your body say about this?<\/p>\n

This is important, because you should only decide things in relationships based on mutually decided goals…you should never dictate your life by what other people feel is \u201cright\u201d for you.\u00a0 You must know, and stand in, your truth.\u00a0 Which leads to the second question:<\/p>\n

Who\u2019s going with me?\u00a0 If your companion has the same goals for the relationship, he will follow–even if what he is following is your decision to stay. Or he may ask you to stay where you are, which is just as “fair” as you asking him if he will to go with you. Both actions are legitimate demonstrations that he has the same goals for the relationship as you do. So, it still means you must know where you are going, and why. \u00a0In other words, what part of your Divinity do you choose to express, staying or<\/em> going?<\/p>\n

If, dear one, you would like to know more about what Conversations With God<\/em> has to say about relationships, I would suggest you go to Book 1, Chapter 8. Just a snippet:<\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0\u00a0 You have no obligation in relationship, You have only opportunity.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0 Opportunity, not obligation, is the cornerstone of religion, the basis of all spirituality. So long as you see it the other way around you will have missed the point.<\/strong><\/p>\n

\u00a0\u00a0 \u00a0 Relationship \u2013 your relationship to all things \u2013 was created as your perfect tool in the work of the soul. That is why relationships are sacred ground. It is why every personal relationship is holy. Never do anything in a relationship out of a sense of obligation. Do whatever you do out of a sense of the glorious opportunity your relationship affords you to decide, and to be, Who You Really Are\u2026..\u00a0long-term relationships do hold remarkable opportunities for mutual growth, mutual expression, and mutual fulfillment \u2013 and that has its own reward.<\/strong><\/p><\/blockquote>\n

\u00a0<\/strong>Therese<\/p>\n

(Therese Wilson is the administrator of the global website at www.ChangingChange.ne<\/span>t<\/a>, which offers spiritual assistance from a team of Spiritual Helpers responding to every post from readers within 24 hours or less, and offering insight, suggestions, and companionship during moments of unbidden, unexpected, unwelcome change on the journey of life. \u00a0She may be contacted at\u00a0Therese@TheGlobalConversation.com<\/a>.)<\/span><\/span><\/span><\/strong><\/p>\n

(If you would like a question considered for publication, please submit your request to:\u00a0\u00a0<\/em><\/strong>Advice@TheGlobalConversation.com<\/em><\/strong><\/a>, where our team is waiting to hear from you.)<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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