{"id":1852,"date":"2012-10-23T00:01:36","date_gmt":"2012-10-23T04:01:36","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=1852"},"modified":"2012-10-25T11:16:43","modified_gmt":"2012-10-25T15:16:43","slug":"can-you-make-someone-choose-your-reality-2","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=1852","title":{"rendered":"Can you make someone choose your reality?"},"content":{"rendered":"

This is my first time asking this kind of question. I’m not too sure\u00a0<\/em>on how to compose it without sounding disrespectful or too na\u00efve. \u00a0People can\u00a0<\/em>create their realities, right. Can someone choose his reality to continue a\u00a0<\/em>permanent partnership with someone that would not necessarily want to? If he wants\u00a0<\/em>to have that relationship to work, he has and will continue to put energy into it.\u00a0<\/em>The partner doesn\u2019t see it that way. \u00a0She wants out of this relationship. His mind is\u00a0<\/em>surely going to explode. He cannot understand why! \u00a0He’s not an abusive person in any\u00a0<\/em>way. He’s a good provider, a good person.. He has a lot of feelings for his wife. \u00a0<\/em><\/em><\/p>\n

Sometimes he feels like a fool for letting her stay in the house until she finds a\u00a0<\/em>place to go live.\u00a0 Of course, she doesn’t gave him much attention and told him she\u00a0<\/em>has filed for a divorce. What is going on here? They both are very spiritual and\u00a0<\/em>believe it’s their path to become better persons and show, teach, and spread the Love. \u00a0<\/em>Enough of this rambling! I don’t know if any of this makes sense to you, but can you\u00a0<\/em>shed some *light* into this? \u00a0Thank you so much! <\/em><\/p>\n

PS: You’re right, I’m talking about my\u00a0<\/em>own marital situation.\u00a0 P.E. \u00a0 \u00a0 \u00a0\u00a0<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n

Dear P.E.,<\/p>\n

The answer is no…you can not create a reality that someone else is not willing to\u00a0create with you.\u00a0 Every soul has its own agenda, and every soul has free will.<\/p>\n

P.E., I get that you would have a desire for someone you love deeply to want to stay with you.\u00a0 I get\u00a0that deeply.\u00a0 It is a natural thing. \u00a0I would, however, suggest that you are already creating the reality that your soul\u00a0wishes to experience.\u00a0 You have defined yourself as \u201ca good provider, a good person, spiritual,\u201d etc.\u00a0 Can you see that you can Be these things in any relationship? \u00a0Can you see that you can Be these things in no relationship?<\/p>\n

Thinking that the current relationship with your wife is the only way you can demonstrate these things\u00a0is expecting life to show up in only one way. \u00a0And God and Life provide more for you than just one way, or one love.\u00a0 Ask yourself, What is this relationship giving me\u00a0the opportunity to experience?\u00a0 Why am I in this relationship?\u00a0 In fact, what is the\u00a0purpose of being in a relationship at all?\u00a0 I believe it is to give the other back to themselves.\u00a0 It is to give the other person every opportunity to be who they\u00a0really are; and through doing that, I also get to be who I really am.<\/p>\n

I am not saying that you should give up.\u00a0 What I am saying is that you should never force another, physically or energetically, to do anything.\u00a0 The best you would receive is surrender.\u00a0 What I am also saying is that if this relationship has a chance of moving in a different direction, it will be because you move in a different direction.\u00a0 That direction, to me, would always (only?) include what your\u00a0wife\u2019s wishes may be. Is it impossible to believe that even apart can still be a spiritual way for both?<\/p>\n

Interestingly enough, when you move into this space, it opens up the door for more than one way for your wife to be in your life.\u00a0 One of these ways could be supremely satisfying ways you least expect!<\/p>\n

This, of course, is just my general answer.\u00a0 There are tools in the book When Everything\u00a0Changes, Change Everything<\/em> that can help you find your own answers, in your own way.<\/p>\n

Therese<\/p>\n

(Therese Wilson is the administrator of the global website at\u00a0www.ChangingChange.net<\/a>, which offers spiritual assistance from a team of Spiritual Helpers responding to every post from readers within 24 hours or less, and offering insight, suggestions, and companionship during moments of unbidden, unexpected, unwelcome change on the journey of life. She may be contacted at\u00a0Therese@TheGlobalConversation.com<\/a>.)<\/em><\/p>\n

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This is my first time asking this kind of question. I’m not too sure\u00a0on how to compose it without sounding disrespectful or too na\u00efve. \u00a0People can\u00a0create their realities, right. Can someone choose his reality to continue a\u00a0permanent partnership with someone that would not necessarily want to? If he wants\u00a0to have that relationship to work, he […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[171],"tags":[333,52,210],"class_list":["post-1852","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-advice","tag-advice-2","tag-the-global-conversation","tag-when-everything-changes-change-everything"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1852","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/10"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=1852"}],"version-history":[{"count":18,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1852\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6948,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1852\/revisions\/6948"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=1852"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=1852"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=1852"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}