{"id":2385,"date":"2012-11-08T17:42:16","date_gmt":"2012-11-08T22:42:16","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=2385"},"modified":"2012-11-08T17:42:16","modified_gmt":"2012-11-08T22:42:16","slug":"easily-influenced-by-negativity-of-others","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=2385","title":{"rendered":"Easily Influenced By Negativity of Others"},"content":{"rendered":"

I\u2019m finding it really hard to maintain my inner peace and balance around negative people and circumstances, and it\u2019s particularly hard right now with the whole political divide thing \u2013 people are downright mean right now!\u00a0 My question is, how do I stop being so affected by the negative energy of those around me?<\/em><\/p>\n

Sarah, Wisconsin<\/em><\/p>\n

Hi Sarah,<\/p>\n

The answer to your question lies in your own alignment and connection with yourself, as well as where you are focusing your attention.\u00a0 In short, when our attention is placed within, nothing \u201cwithout\u201d or outside of us can harm us.\u00a0 This isn\u2019t just spiritual fluff, talk to any person who consciously practices and makes going within a priority, they\u2019ll tell you they are a lot less influenced by the thoughts, words and actions of others.\u00a0 And when you allow yourself to spend more time paying attention to the negativity around you, reading about it, listening to people who complain a lot or are negative, etc. more than you are focusing on going within yourself, yes, inner peace and balance does indeed become jeopardized.\u00a0 There are many approaches to this, as you can imagine, but I\u2019m going to offer you the most direct and effective one that I am aware of, and that is to: a) engage in daily practices and surround yourself with people and resources that support and are in alignment with who you really are, and b) be very aware (and honest) about where you\u2019re allowing your attention to be placed.<\/p>\n

The daily practices part is huge \u2013 if you are not giving yourself this gift already, I urge you to do so immediately.\u00a0 Miraculous things come from this alone.\u00a0 Meditating, journaling, practicing daily gratitude, yoga, etc. are all wonderful ways to \u201cgo within\u201d and connect with who you really are.\u00a0 But the real magic of this lies not in what you are doing but in the commitment, consistency and discipline of engaging in these practices each and every single day.\u00a0 I wake up before my husband and daughter each day, and trust me I am not a morning person, just so I can make sure I get my practices in.\u00a0 I do this because I see how it impacts the flow of the rest of my day, as well as how I show up in it and how I interact with others.\u00a0 And when I don\u2019t do it, or skip a day or two, I feel it.\u00a0 In other words, I notice I am more easily influenced by others and find it more difficult to maintain a sense of peace and balance.<\/p>\n

Also, get into the habit of asking yourself if where you are currently placing your attention is serving you.\u00a0 And if it\u2019s not, consciously choose to shift your focus.\u00a0 I know there has been a lot of disagreement and negativity on facebook, for example, so much so that people are even \u201cun-friending\u201d those who hold different political viewpoints.\u00a0 If you\u2019re reading these posts and are noticing that it doesn\u2019t feel good to read them, it\u2019s in fact messing with your bliss, then simply stop reading them.<\/em>\u00a0 It really can be that simple.<\/p>\n

Try these two things, Sarah, and I bet you will begin to see a difference immediately.\u00a0 Good luck and enjoy!<\/p>\n

Nova<\/p>\n

(Nova Wightman is a CWG Life Coach, as well as the owner and operator of Go Within Life Coaching, <\/em><\/strong>www.gowithincoaching.com<\/em><\/strong><\/a>, specializing in helping individuals blend their spirituality with their humanity in a way that makes life more enjoyable, easy, and fulfilling.\u00a0 She can be reached at <\/em><\/strong>Nova@theglobalconversation.com<\/em><\/strong><\/a>. )<\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n

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I\u2019m finding it really hard to maintain my inner peace and balance around negative people and circumstances, and it\u2019s particularly hard right now with the whole political divide thing \u2013 people are downright mean right now!\u00a0 My question is, how do I stop being so affected by the negative energy of those around me? Sarah, […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":14,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[171],"tags":[524,521,525,523,520,522],"class_list":["post-2385","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-advice","tag-attention","tag-balance","tag-daily-practice","tag-going-within","tag-inner-peace","tag-negativity"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2385","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/14"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2385"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2385\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2387,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2385\/revisions\/2387"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2385"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2385"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2385"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}