{"id":2627,"date":"2012-11-20T00:01:20","date_gmt":"2012-11-20T05:01:20","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=2627"},"modified":"2012-11-20T21:33:37","modified_gmt":"2012-11-21T02:33:37","slug":"if-you-think-its-a-sign-it-is-a-sign","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=2627","title":{"rendered":"If you think it’s a sign, it is a sign."},"content":{"rendered":"

I have a question about signs. I was in a relationship and always noticed my\u00a0<\/em>boyfriend’s first name everywhere…also the word “ring.” I kept thinking to myself why ring..I didn’t see him proposing?? Then I would see a wedding ring…odd. We broke\u00a0<\/em>up and I wish him the best, but just this week it started all over again. It has been a year!!!I feel like I am nuts. It doesn’t make sense. Is this a sign or something else? \u00a0Because I am confused. \u00a0~T.<\/em><\/p>\n

Dear T.,<\/p>\n

If you think it is a sign, it is a sign. But a sign of what?<\/p>\n

You could go into the creative, romantic side of you and think that it means he’s thinking of you, and that is certainly possible. It might, and I believe more probably, mean that you are thinking of him and haven’t yet resolved your issues around him and the ring.<\/p>\n

Which leads me to a small discussion on preferences vs. expectations. Culturally, we are taught to expect the ring, so we go into a relationship with a very narrow focus of what it should look like…expectation. Only one way of fulfilling the vision. Preference, on the other hand, says that the ring would be nice, but that you know there are other ways of having a good relationship, and that you are open to any way that shows itself, and that is mutually agreeable.<\/p>\n

Then, perhaps, these are signs that you should look at what is actually true about the relationship, based on what you actually experienced and witnessed, rather than the story you made up about those things. Just as a short example:<\/p>\n

Fact: He left me.<\/p>\n

Story: He broke my heart, he doesn’t love me, he thinks that I am the worst person in the world. \u00a0(I’m making this up, of course, because I know nothing about your breakup.)<\/p>\n

T., it’s up to you to decide what the sign means. It could be as simple as you asking you<\/em> to make up your mind about what you really feel. It could be he’s thinking of you. Or it could be something else entirely! I absolutely believe that God talks to us constantly, through little signs all day long. I also believe that if we \u201clisten\u201d through the body, via that old tummy test, we will actually know what the conversation is about!<\/p>\n

Find a quiet place, sit down, think about the things you have just read, and see how they feel in your tummy.<\/p>\n

Therese<\/p>\n

(Therese Wilson is the administrator of the global website at\u00a0<\/em>www.ChangingChange.net<\/em><\/a>, which offers spiritual assistance from a team of Spiritual Helpers responding to every post from readers within 24 hours or less, and offers insight, suggestions, and companionship during moments of unbidden, unexpected, unwelcome change on the journey of life. She may be contacted at\u00a0<\/em>Therese@TheGlobalConversation.com<\/em><\/span><\/a><\/span>.)<\/em><\/p>\n

(If you would like a question considered for publication, please submit your request to\u00a0<\/em>Advice@TheGlobalConversation.com<\/em><\/span><\/a><\/span>, where our team is waiting to hear from you.)<\/em><\/p>\n


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I have a question about signs. I was in a relationship and always noticed my\u00a0boyfriend’s first name everywhere…also the word “ring.” I kept thinking to myself why ring..I didn’t see him proposing?? Then I would see a wedding ring…odd. We broke\u00a0up and I wish him the best, but just this week it started all over […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":10,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[171],"tags":[62,606,52],"class_list":["post-2627","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-advice","tag-cwg","tag-signs","tag-the-global-conversation"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2627","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/10"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2627"}],"version-history":[{"count":11,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2627\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":6944,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2627\/revisions\/6944"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2627"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2627"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2627"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}