What I am about to share with you is not a new idea and it\u2019s not my own idea. \u00a0In fact, I am sure you have probably heard of this concept before. \u00a0But the day I truly saw the living reality of it, it began to transform my life—and my children’s lives. \u00a0And it was also the day that I realized I had been fooling myself <\/em>for many, many years.<\/p>\n I finally understood in a flash of a moment, that everything <\/span>I project \u201cout<\/strong>wardly\u201donto others is a reflection of what is going on \u201cin<\/strong>wardly.\u201d \u00a0The more I became aware of this and started to test this concept out, the more my life began to change for the better! \u00a0And for the \u201cbetterment\u201d of my children!\u00a0 Although most of us who have (bravely and courageously) put even one toe<\/em> on the \u201cspiritual path\u201d are already familiar with this metaphysical principle, how often do we consider it within the context of Parenting?<\/em>\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n It\u2019s likely that when we\u2019ve worked with this idea in the past we\u2019ve drudged up the most recent interactions not with our children but with our romantic partner or co-worker or employer or close friend—and then humbly saw what might need attention within ourselves.<\/em> But how can this awareness be applied in the dynamic of parent-to-child and child-to-parent?<\/p>\n I don\u2019t believe parenting with the New Spirituality requires anything unusual or unrealistic.\u00a0 And — much like the \u201ceffortless parenting\u201d practice I pointed to in my last article — I think there is a skill lying dormant in us that can be easily awakened when we gently notice that what\u2019s appearing outside <\/em>of us is really the very same thing that\u2019s appearing inside <\/em>of us.\u00a0 \u201cFooling myself\u201d is how I first referred to this back when I began to recognize my tendency to imagine that what my children were displaying \u201cout there\u201d was anything different or other than what was already living<\/em> \u201cin here.\u201d<\/p>\n Fooling ourselves is an innocent daily ritual for most of us, and usually we don’t even know that we\u2019re doing it. \u00a0Think of all of the times you have lost patience with your children, felt angry or overwhelmed. \u00a0These feelings are usually experienced and believed to be your natural outward reaction to the challenging situation of the moment. \u00a0But what if you noticed that the lack of patience you are having with your child might be because you are feeling little patience with yourself<\/em> that day? \u00a0What if your anger is on the rise not because your child is displaying anger, but because you were angry with yourself already?\u00a0 <\/em>And suppose your intolerance toward your child is because you are not feeling very tolerant of the perfectly imperfect<\/em> human being that your Soul came here to experience!\u00a0 What if all of these emotions stem from the fact that you have forgotten in the flurry of parenting to tend to your own emotions; your inner self; your Soul?<\/p>\n First, it\u2019s a high level of Mastery to even notice and want<\/em> to take responsibility for what we are experiencing on the \u201cinside\u201d– so let\u2019s acknowledge what a huge shift that is in and of itself!<\/p>\n As a parent — and especially a new one — it\u2019s easy to imagine that because we are now in this society-created role, we should have it all figured out, and that losing patience or feeling angry or overwhelmed is no longer okay to experience. \u00a0There are a number of principles from the Conversations with God <\/em>messages that might help ease the self-judgment that comes swimming in (sometimes like a tsunami!) in our daily interactions with our children. In this article, let\u2019s add the concept \u201cWe Are All One\u201d and notice that if this is a reality, how might both you and your children be working to heal the same Illusions? \u00a0Perhaps viewing your own ups & downs mirrored by your child back to you can remind you that your souls are always \u201con the same team,\u201d and help you to feel more compassion and empathy for the whole dance you\u2019re doing together on any given day.<\/p>\n Even though it can at first seem more convenient to get past the moment and live in denial of what we\u2019re feeling or what judgment we\u2019re placing on our self, learning to pause and to take even one full minute<\/em> to examine what is going on inside<\/em> can improve our natural skills in dealing appropriately with the situations appearing on the outside.<\/em><\/p>\n If we were to practice a 1-Minute<\/em> meditation many times a day (because sometimes those short segments of time are all we\u2019ve got!), how might it affect our overall experience of parenting and the exchanges we have with our children?\u00a0 If you decided that the greatest gift you could give yourself today was to be patient or compassionate or understanding and tender with you,<\/em> there would most likely be a natural tendency to then offer the same with your children, and continue to work on healing Illusions together.<\/em><\/p>\n A \u201cMama Laurie Mantra\u201d that might help (and one I still use often!):\u00a0 \u201cIf I see it Out there, I\u2019m looking In here!\u201d<\/em>\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n (Laurie Lankins Farley has worked with Neale Donald Walsch for approximately 10 years. She is the Executive Director of his non-profit The School of the New Spirituality and creative co-director of CwGforParents.com. Laurie has published an inspirational children\u2019s book \u201cThe Positive Little Soul.\u201d She can be contacted at\u00a0<\/em>Parenting@TheGlobalConversation.com<\/span><\/a><\/span>.<\/em>)<\/em><\/em><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":" What I am about to share with you is not a new idea and it\u2019s not my own idea. \u00a0In fact, I am sure you have probably heard of this concept before. \u00a0But the day I truly saw the living reality of it, it began to transform my life—and my children’s lives. \u00a0And it was […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":16,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[439],"tags":[305,4,565,201,193,461],"class_list":["post-2648","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-parenting","tag-children","tag-conversations-with-god","tag-laurie-lankins-farley","tag-meditation","tag-new-spirituality","tag-parenting-2"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2648","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/16"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=2648"}],"version-history":[{"count":7,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2648\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":2650,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/2648\/revisions\/2650"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=2648"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=2648"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=2648"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}