{"id":2916,"date":"2012-12-04T00:01:38","date_gmt":"2012-12-04T05:01:38","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=2916"},"modified":"2012-12-06T07:58:20","modified_gmt":"2012-12-06T12:58:20","slug":"i-am-in-need-of-such-help-right-now","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=2916","title":{"rendered":"I am in need of such help right now."},"content":{"rendered":"

I am reading WECCE, and I am in need of such help right now. I am full of anxiety, fear, and loneliness for the first time in my life. During the past 2 months, my best friend moved away, my boyfriend, who I loved dearly, broke things off. \u00a0Then last week my dog was killed. \u00a0I know in my heart and soul that I am supposed to be going through these changes, but I’m having such a hard time letting things go. I built my life for two 1\/2 years around my boyfriend. \u00a0I have lived alone in several cities with job transfers, etc. And I LOVE where I am living now, and I thought I had met someone with so many interests. I had some of the best times in my life with this person, but he could not give me the spiritual support and move on to build a future with me. \u00a0I completely lost and disliked myself. \u00a0I KNOW of all this, so why is my heart just clinging to everything?\u00a0 Why can’t I feel ANY joy in anything I do or see?\u00a0 I try and try to see the beauty in my home, in nature, in ALL things that brought me such great joy. I just want to let everything go..let go of the pain, let go of the wondering of how I manifested this all. I never imagined I would feel such loneliness – ever.\u00a0\u00a0<\/em><\/p>\n

I know my pain will heal and I will feel (and eat) normally again. I will continue to pray and meditate to love myself more. Here it comes\u2026BUT\u2026loving yourself when you are BY yourself is pretty easy (I think), as I have lived alone quite a bit in my life.\u00a0 The big test comes when you are joined with someone else. I have been emotionally unavailable and feared intimacy ALL my life – hence why I have attracted men that are the same. I want to do everything in my power to change that. How do I know when I’m really ready?\u00a0 And to really know that my subconscious is going to attract someone that will be good for me?\u00a0 Do I trust my feeling?\u00a0 How do I lose the fear? I would appreciate any help\u2026.<\/em><\/p>\n

<\/em>C.D.<\/em><\/p>\n

Dear C.D.,<\/p>\n

WECCE is about how to embrace Change (another word for God\/Evolution), and how to choose<\/em><\/strong>\u00a0how we live in that change. \u00a0Part of that process involves looking at our current Truth. \u00a0What version of that truth are we living? \u00a0Most of us are living in distorted truth. \u00a0We can, however, move pretty easily to apparent Truth by simply reframing it with no judgment. \u00a0For instance, “My boyfriend broke things off” could merely be “My boyfriend is not with me anymore. ” \u00a0“I completely lost and disliked myself” could be “I was not being who I really am in the relationship.” \u00a0Even “I can’t feel any joy” could be transformed with “I am experiencing a lack of joy right now,” which would easily allow you to experience the lack of joy with Gratitude, because you know it is only what you are feeling right now, not something that has to go on forever\u2026unless you choose to let it go on forever.<\/p>\n

For every negative thought, there is the opposite positive one. \u00a0Look for these opposites, C.D., as you re-train yourself. \u00a0It takes practice! \u00a0If you are even reaching out, it means that you are beginning to do just that\u2026practice being good to yourself! \u00a0Negativity is definitely not good for you or anyone else.<\/p>\n

Take a good look, and you will see your post is all about the past<\/strong>! \u00a0This has nothing to do, ultimately, with now<\/strong>\u2026unless you allow it to be. \u00a0In reading WECCE, you will have read that this is all past data. \u00a0This past data came from many sources, all of which thought that they were protecting you in some way\u2026and all of which were subconscious, and controlled by the ego. \u00a0The ego is the part of you that defines you as human, as an individual human, but, nonetheless, is also the part of us that operates out of fear. \u00a0This fear is designed to keep us in the familiar and actually stop <\/strong>us from moving into what is truly our better selves. \u00a0Fear holds us in place in the now, not in the manner of being present, but from the place of looking back and avoiding looking and moving forward.<\/p>\n

Life, as they say, begins at the edge of your comfort zone\u2026and your comfort zone is fear. \u00a0Why do you wish to live your life in fear? \u00a0It is serving you in some way? \u00a0 Since all we do serves us. \u00a0Do you get to define yourself as the person who is emotionally unavailable? \u00a0or the person who is fearful of intimacy? \u00a0In some way, this has served you, but do you wish it to continue to serve you? \u00a0Yes, we can choose to love what the past has shown us (in this case you know intimately what fear and unavailable feel like and how you are when you embrace them) and actually choose to be the opposite of that! \u00a0This is a world of context, of opposites, and if you know one thing, you are now very well able to know the other\u2026if you choose to remember.<\/p>\n

I would take the \u201cgut\u201d test when you have a thought. \u00a0Your tummy will tell you if you are coming from fear or love. \u00a0Ask yourself why you even feel you have to have someone in your life right now. \u00a0How does the answer feel? \u00a0Look in the mirror and look into your eyes and very quietly tell yourself you love you<\/strong>\u2026and keep doing it.<\/p>\n

The first time I read in CWG the part about saying out loud, \u201cI love sex or money or\u2026\u201d and then it asked me to say loudly, \u201cI love me!\u201d I found it amazing that I was unable to say that without hesitation.\u00a0 \u00a0Wow! \u00a0 And I am a pretty self-confident person, so I knew if it was difficult for me, it must be almost impossible for others.\u00a0 I was okay with all of it, but not the unabashed loving of myself!<\/p>\n

C.D., not only can<\/strong>\u00a0you tell yourself you love yourself, I would like to tell you something else\u2026you are love<\/strong>! \u00a0Just by being here, you have demonstrated that you are love!\u00a0 By writing this note, you have shown you can overcome fear, which is a supreme act of self love. \u00a0How wonderful is that?<\/p>\n

Be gentle with yourself and be proactive\u2026choose! \u00a0 You are choosing Change right now, actively, because passivity has not served you well. \u00a0Way to go!<\/p>\n

Therese<\/p>\n

(Therese Wilson is a published poet, and is the administrator of the global website at\u00a0<\/em>www.ChangingChange.net<\/a>, which offers spiritual assistance from a team of Spiritual Helpers responding to every post from readers within 24 hours or less, and offers insight, suggestions, and companionship during moments of unbidden, unexpected, unwelcome change on the journey of life. She may be contacted at\u00a0<\/em>Therese@TheGlobalConversation.com<\/span><\/a><\/span>.)<\/em><\/p>\n

(If you would like a question considered for publication, please submit your request to\u00a0<\/em>Advice@TheGlobalConversation.com<\/span><\/a><\/span>, where our team is waiting to hear from you.)<\/em><\/p>\n

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