{"id":3839,"date":"2013-01-31T13:56:21","date_gmt":"2013-01-31T18:56:21","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=3839"},"modified":"2013-01-31T13:56:21","modified_gmt":"2013-01-31T18:56:21","slug":"lets-talk-money","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=3839","title":{"rendered":"Let’s Talk Money"},"content":{"rendered":"

I am newly married and a few months in, and I’m loving the married life!\u00a0 I haven\u2019t noticed much has changed, really, except for one thing \u2013 my husband and I are definitely not on the same wavelength when it comes to money.\u00a0 We recently moved into a new house and now have the whole mortgage and budgeting thing going on, and I now see that we operate entirely differently when it comes to money: I am a go with the flow, trust that things will work out type of person who definitely does not enjoy making sacrifices, and he is a follow the budge to a \u201ct\u201d kind of a guy.\u00a0 This has caused some tension between us, and I\u2019m not sure what to do about it because I don\u2019t even like talking about money! I definitely don\u2019t want this to be a bigger problem though, or drive us apart, so I need some advice.<\/em><\/p>\n

Kristi, Jacksonville<\/em><\/p>\n

Hi Kristi,<\/p>\n

Congrats on your marriage, and let me acknowledge you for bringing this issue to the light before it becomes a bigger problem.\u00a0 You\u2019re right, money can definitely be difficult to talk about for a lot of people, and it happens to be the number one thing that couples fight about, and incidentally, one of the top reasons for divorce.\u00a0 Let\u2019s avoid that, shall we?<\/p>\n

So, what most people don\u2019t realize is that money is just energy, like everything else.\u00a0 What we believe about it, how we think about it, speak of it, interact with it, etc., all contributes to our experience of it.\u00a0 So the first place I\u2019d like to direct you is to what your current idea of money is.\u00a0 Do you believe money is bad, the root of all evil, limited, is earned in large quantities only by those who have either inherited it or work unGodly long hours and are miserable anyway?\u00a0 Or do you believe that there is enough out there for everyone, that we are all deserving of large amounts of abundance of all kinds?\u00a0 If you are unsure, a good place to look is what you heard a lot of growing up.\u00a0 We were sponges as children and it was very easy to unconsciously inherit the beliefs about money that our parents had.\u00a0 For example, if you saw your parents fighting and worrying about money all the time, you\u2019re likely to grow up feeling stressful about money, not wanting to talk about it, avoiding the topic altogether or fighting about it with your spouse, not to mention having the experience of not having a lot of it.<\/p>\n

The good news is that a belief is just a thought you continue to think, and it is entirely possible to change that thought.\u00a0 And that brings me to step 2: once you\u2019ve acknowledged what your current beliefs\/ideas about money are, decide whether or not they are serving you, and if you decide they aren\u2019t, choose a new belief you\u2019d like to have about money, one that does serve you.\u00a0 Next, begin creating new habits that are in alignment with this new belief.\u00a0 For example, say you\u2019ve chosen to believe that money is wonderful and there\u2019s enough to go around for everyone.\u00a0 Some habits you may choose to adopt may be only saying good things about money and avoiding complaining about it, saying a prayer of thanks every time you pay a bill because you have the money to pay for such luxuries as heat and electricity or your cell phone, and you enjoy them all.\u00a0 You could even start a dialogue with your husband about what his beliefs are about money, letting him know that although it\u2019s been a difficult topic for you to talk about in the past, you\u2019d like to be able to talk about it together and find a place in your finances that you both can feel good about.<\/p>\n

But I encourage you, Kristi, to start with yourself.\u00a0 When you get into vibrational alignment with Who You Really Are in relation to any topic in life, it has a way of making everything come together without much effort on your part at all.\u00a0 And everything I gave you above are great ways to come into alignment around money.\u00a0 Look for what you appreciate about money, not what you dislike about it or feel helpless about.\u00a0 Share what you do have with others lovingly and joyfully, now that\u2019s a wonderful way to feel and experience your own abundance.\u00a0 Look for what is currently working for you around money and share that with your husband, giving him the space to share what works for him around it.\u00a0 Marriage is definitely about being willing to love and grow with each other not just through the good times, but through the challenging ones.\u00a0 And this could be a wonderful opportunity for the two of you to grow closer and more intimate in ways you haven\u2019t yet.<\/p>\n

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(Nova Wightman is a CWG Life Coach, as well as the owner and operator of Go Within Life Coaching, <\/em>www.gowithincoaching.com<\/em><\/a>, specializing in helping individuals blend their spirituality with their humanity in a way that makes life more enjoyable, easy, and fulfilling.\u00a0 She can be reached at Nova@theglobalconversation.com. )<\/em><\/p>\n

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I am newly married and a few months in, and I’m loving the married life!\u00a0 I haven\u2019t noticed much has changed, really, except for one thing \u2013 my husband and I are definitely not on the same wavelength when it comes to money.\u00a0 We recently moved into a new house and now have the whole […]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":14,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_acf_changed":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[171],"tags":[400,563,892,893,142,270],"class_list":["post-3839","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-advice","tag-beliefs","tag-communication","tag-energy","tag-habits","tag-marriage-2","tag-money"],"acf":[],"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3839","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/users\/14"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcomments&post=3839"}],"version-history":[{"count":2,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3839\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":3841,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=\/wp\/v2\/posts\/3839\/revisions\/3841"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fmedia&parent=3839"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Fcategories&post=3839"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/index.php?rest_route=%2Fwp%2Fv2%2Ftags&post=3839"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}