\u201cBut I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse\u00a0you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully\u00a0use you, and persecute you.\u201d (Matt. 5:44)<\/p>\n
\u201cWhat hurts you so much that you feel you have to hurt me in order to heal it?\u201d ~ Neale Donald Walsch<\/p>\n
The dilemma of bullies is ancient, and we see it\u00a0today on the playground, at work, and in cyberspace.\u00a0 I\u2019ve seen enough\u00a0articles and people asking about this problem that it warrants\u00a0important consideration.<\/p>\n
It surprises and perplexes me that when I see this played out in the
\nmainstream news media (television, magazines, etc.), that they seem to
\nignore a simple technique that will transform bullying, neutralize it,
\nand even create a blessing as a result.<\/p>\n
What\u2019s the solution or soulution? \u00a0It was the first thing quoted above. \u00a0Matt. 5:44 I\u2019ll modernize it in a moment.<\/p>\n
First, the solution or soulution is not often acceptable to people who want to stay in the problem-centered, negative or victim drama mode. Nevertheless, for those who may be agonizing over this, are dealing\u00a0with this at this moment, or know someone who is, and are spiritually\u00a0open-minded &\u00a0open-hearted, a wonderful soulution is available.<\/p>\n
It\u2019s worked and played in my life and in others\u2019 lives. \u00a0Rather elegant & simple, it\u2019s based on the quote above.<\/p>\n
Its effectiveness and simplicity throws some people off, and even\u00a0creates disruption because they want to dismiss, minimize, and\u00a0marginalize it.\u00a0 Instead, they prefer to stay in the drama and\u00a0victim-hood mentality for as long as they feel necessary.\u00a0 For the rest\u00a0of us, there\u2019s a spiritual, psychological soulution.<\/p>\n
This method or technique can work for bullies at school or work, in\u00a0cyberspace, hate groups, such as gay bashers and racial hate groups,\u00a0etc.\u00a0 Its effectiveness goes way beyond bullying, but because of the\u00a0serious nature, especially with kids in school, and especially with\u00a0cyber bullying and people in the work place, I\u2019m especially signaling\u00a0this out for those dealing with bullies.<\/p>\n
Think of the often quoted passage of Jesus, \u201cBut I say unto you, Love\u00a0your enemies, bless them that curse you, do good to them that hate you,\u00a0and pray for them which despitefully use you, and persecute you.\u201d (Matt. 5:44)\u00a0 \u00a0It\u2019s in this passage and in the spirit of it that the soulution awaits.<\/p>\n
The\u00a0soulution: \u00a0Radiating and pouring forth Light and Love on the person who is doing the bullying.<\/p>\n
I\u00a0like to say waterfall Light and Love on this person or persons\/group,\u00a0etc. Surround them with Light and Love and watch what happens.\u00a0\u00a0Watch what kind of energy change is created.<\/p>\n
A few personal examples:
\nLet me give you an example or two. \u00a0I\u2019ve been in work situations\u00a0where I\u2019ve been potentially bullied, and stuck up for myself right away.\u00a0\u00a0In one case, the person was someone who pushed his weight around\u00a0literally, in that he was a huge man who few would tangle with. \u00a0I\u00a0didn\u2019t really like his attitude, but he made it known he was out to get\u00a0me and I should stay out of his way.<\/p>\n
What I did every night from work was to sit in my chair, visualize\u00a0him, and pour light on him.\u00a0\u00a0It was not very easy, at first. \u00a0I\u00a0disliked him for the unfairness of the situation in which I was placed.\u00a0\u00a0Even as I poured light on him, I could see he was still angry. \u00a0Now,\u00a0mind you, this is all going on in my mind\u2026my mental, emotional
\nexperience.<\/p>\n
As time went on and I did this daily, and my visualization of him\u00a0being angry and unreceptive started to shift, and when I was\u00a0imagining, visualizing, and pouring light and love on him, he started\u00a0to become more receptive and finally started to accept more of the\u00a0light and love I was showering. \u00a0Now, even though this all played out\u00a0in my mind, I was working and playing to make an emotional shift away\u00a0from the negative energy I felt I was unfairly being vented with.<\/p>\n
Yet, as my visualization shifted, eventually, so did he. \u00a0About 2\u00a0weeks later, working on a particular project, he came over and asked me\u00a0to do a simple easy task on a project he was working on, which I did.\u00a0His response was, \u201cYa know what? \u00a0You\u2019re all right,\u201d and then he left.\u00a0This told me that in his own way, he was saying that the situation was\u00a0neutralized and we were cool. \u00a0I knew that my pouring light and\u00a0love on this had created a new energy that resolved this conflict.<\/p>\n
This happened again years later at a job where I refused to do\u00a0something because another person was pulling rank on me as a new guy,\u00a0and I would not give in and stuck up for what I felt was right. \u00a0This\u00a0person, a woman, really got mad and took it upon herself to belittle me\u00a0in front of others, in an extremely inappropriate way. \u00a0However, I knew she was acting out her pain on me, and I did not take\u00a0it personally. I knew that my pouring of light and love on her would\u00a0eventually change the situation toward the influence of that positive\u00a0love and light energy.<\/p>\n
It took a lot longer, as this woman was very stubborn and really\u00a0continued to act out, showing contempt and hate for me. \u00a0Again, it was\u00a0a bit challenging to put this light and love on her when she\u00a0continued such rude behavior, yet I persisted. \u00a0I was quite sure she\u2019d\u00a0eventually change her attitude, or leave my experience, or that my\u00a0situation would change for the better without her continuing to be in my\u00a0experience.
\nAfter working on this for four to six weeks, she was fired.\u00a0\u00a0Remember, I poured the light and love on her, yet she did not want to\u00a0change her attitude, so life created an experience where each energy\u00a0would be best expressed.<\/p>\n
Sometimes when you start waterfalling Light and Love on the\u00a0situation, the drama may temporarily escalate and flare up even more\u00a0dramatically.\u00a0 This can be due to the chemicalization process of your\u00a0good energy vibrations mixing with their self hatred or negative hurt\u00a0energy.<\/p>\n
They may try even more drastic measures. This is when some people\u00a0start to worry that what they are doing does not seem to be working.\u00a0Don\u2019t worry. \u00a0This shows that you are having a effect on them and as these opposing energies mix, the chemicalization drama is sometimes (not\u00a0always) the result.<\/p>\n
Realize that this is temporary and as you waterfall the Love and Light on them, it will neutralize the drama.\u00a0 This is a critical point to\u00a0remember, as your Love energy moves in, they can sometimes rebel\u00a0dramatically, but only temporarily. As you are consistent in your good\u00a0energy out flow, they will eventually either, move into your good\u00a0energy, leave you alone or move out of your experience.<\/p>\n
The Key here is that you don\u2019t play the blame or\u00a0victim game or card.\u00a0 \u201cIt\u2019s the bully\u2019s fault, they are to blame, they\u00a0are the reason my life is currently so miserable,\u201d etc. Instead, you proactively work and play to adjust your thinking\u00a0and feelings around this by actively proactively taking charge of how\u00a0you are responding and being around this situation.\u00a0You don\u2019t have to do this. \u00a0Of course, many don\u2019t, yet I\u2019m here to say\u00a0that if you desire this to be resolved for the betterment of you and\u00a0the one bullying, you now have a new choice on how to be and show up in\u00a0relation to this hurt energy they misdirect toward you.\u00a0 That\u2019s why you\u00a0were directed by life to this article.<\/p>\n
Always let light and love be the waterfalling energy toward those\u00a0who would bully you or create unfair work or life conditions for you.\u00a0The energy you send, express and give will express itself back to you\u00a0in a very beneficial way, without harming them. They will either change\u00a0their attitudinal energy, move away from you, or be promoted out of\u00a0your experience in an appropriate way for all involved, especially you.<\/p>\n
The loving, compassionate energy we send and give to those who\u00a0treat us unfairly will optimistically and positively influence the\u00a0environment we are in. I believe this to be true of most, if not all, bullying situations.<\/p>\n
That\u2019s it!\u00a0 It\u2019s that simple!<\/p>\n
\u201cBut I say unto you, Love your enemies, bless them that curse\u00a0you, do good to them that hate you, and pray for them which despitefully\u00a0use you, and persecute you.\u201d \u00a0(Matt. 5:44) [and you will see, feel and experience the blessings of Light and Love.]<\/p>\n
Love and Light poured on those that hurt, heals their hurt and changes your experience for the better.<\/p>\n
Bully and suicides often leave out the mental illness that is also\u00a0present in certain cases and sound byte articles often (not always)\u00a0offer more simplistic answers to more complex issues that also play out\u00a0as part of the overall picture.<\/p>\n
An update article link of interest 2.9. 2012:<\/p>\n
Bullying and Suicide<\/span><\/a><\/span><\/p>\n Another bully article update added 10.3.2011 Educators across the country are using canines to teach compassion and social responsibility. \u00a0From surfing to sniffing out cancer, what can\u2019t dogs do? Now,\u00a0USA Today <\/em>reports\u00a0that a number of school programs across the country are using dogs to\u00a0teach kids empathy and compassion in an effort to help curb school\u00a0bullying. Here, a brief guide: How are dogs fighting bullying?<\/p>\n Kansas City schools have a program\u00a0called \u201cNo More Bullies,\u201d in which program volunteers, accompanied by\u00a0trained dogs, teach kids about fairness, compassion, and integrity for\u00a0one hour a day over five days. \u201cThe animals are the glue that helps the\u00a0children stay focused and understand the message,\u201d says Jo Dean Hearn,\u00a0an ex-teacher who developed the program. \u201cChildren can easily identify\u00a0with an animal. And it\u2019s easy for them to transition when we ask them to\u00a0consider how an animal feels (if ill treated) to how the kid sitting\u00a0near them feels (if poorly treated).\u201d<\/p>\n Are there similar programs in other parts of the country?<\/p>\n You bet. Last year, the Yale University School of the 21st Century and\u00a0the Pet Savers Foundation of North Shore Animal League America launched a\u00a0program called Mutt-i-grees to help children learn how to be more kind \u2014 toward people and animals. The program, which typically employs a dog-shaped hand puppet instead\u00a0of an actual dog, is now used in 900 elementary schools in 28 states,\u00a0and it\u2019s being expanded to junior high and high schools. Also, the Healing Species\u00a0program, founded a decade ago in South Carolina, uses rescue dogs to\u00a0help children and teens recover from abuse and learn self-esteem,\u00a0empathy, and other core values.<\/p>\n Do these programs really work?<\/p>\n They seem to. The \u201cNo More Bullies\u201d program is so popular that there\u2019s a long waiting list for next year. While it\u2019s still too early to evaluate\u00a0the Mutt-i-grees program, most of the teachers who participated said\u00a0their students\u2019 social, emotional, and problem-solving skills improved. A\u00a0study\u00a0published in 2008 found that suspensions for violent behavior declined\u00a0by 55 percent among students who participated in the Healing Species\u00a0program, and general aggression and retaliation went down by 62 percent. Teachers and guidance counselors also reported improved grades and a\u00a0more than 80 percent increase in their students\u2019 ability to walk away\u00a0from conflicts.<\/p>\n Sources: Healing Species, Mutt-i-grees, USA Today, Wichita Eagle<\/p>\n (Marko Damkoehler\u00a0is an artist\/writer\/musician and creator of markoworld.com, as well as an avid student of CwG. 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\nBy The Week Yahoo news: \u00a0\u201cCan dogs reduce bullying in schools?\u201d<\/p>\n
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