{"id":3877,"date":"2013-02-07T11:26:43","date_gmt":"2013-02-07T16:26:43","guid":{"rendered":"http:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=3877"},"modified":"2013-02-07T11:26:43","modified_gmt":"2013-02-07T16:26:43","slug":"co-worker-is-driving-me-crazy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/www.theglobalconversation.com\/blog\/?p=3877","title":{"rendered":"Co-Worker is Driving Me Crazy"},"content":{"rendered":"

I have a co-worker who I just don\u2019t get along with.\u00a0 I do my best to be nice, have tried the \u201ckill her with kindness\u201d approach, but I have to admit I am getting sucked into the drama of it all more and more.\u00a0 I don\u2019t like having a relationship like this in my life, I sometimes dread going to work because I don\u2019t want to have to interact with her, and I certainly don\u2019t like the way I act sometimes because of it (gossiping, complaining, acting less than my highest self).\u00a0 I\u2019m not exactly sure what the problem is, I think our personalities just don\u2019t match, but it\u2019s beginning to drive me crazy because it\u2019s taking up so much of my energy!\u00a0 How do I make this problem go away?<\/em><\/p>\n

Janelle, TX<\/em><\/p>\n

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Hi Janelle,<\/p>\n

On this day of your life, I believe God wants you to know…<\/p>\n

…that you cannot hope to solve any problem using the<\/span><\/p>\n

same energy that created the problem.<\/span><\/p>\n

Whether it’s the endless wars in the world or the<\/p>\n

unending quarrels and fighting in your own home, the<\/p>\n

problem is the same: conflicting energy. If you want<\/p>\n

to change the outcome, change the energy.<\/em><\/p>\n

The extraordinary aspect of this solution is that you<\/p>\n

do not have to wait for the other party in order <\/em><\/p>\n

to do it<\/em>.<\/p>\n

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Do you receive the daily emails from Neale?\u00a0 If not, I highly recommend them, you can sign up at www.nealedonaldwalsch.com<\/a>.\u00a0 Anyway, the above quote is from the email sent out today, actually, and I believe it addresses your question perfectly.\u00a0 In other words, you cannot fix a problem from inside the problem.\u00a0 You must move outside of it, and actually shift your attention away from it.\u00a0 This approach is difficult for most to understand, because it can appear to be avoidance, and we have been conditioned in our society to attack a problem head on.<\/p>\n

I assure you that shifting your attention is actually not avoiding it.\u00a0 It\u2019s \u201cchanging the energy\u201d, as Neale articulates above.\u00a0 When we change the energy, we are giving ourselves access to more information, broader perspectives, and yes, solutions.\u00a0 And, as also articulated above, you do not have to wait for the other party in order to do it.\u00a0 This is another great demonstration of how you can always control your experience of something, even if you can\u2019t control the event itself.<\/p>\n

So how exactly do we change the energy?\u00a0 What does that look like?\u00a0 <\/em><\/p>\n

It looks like shifting your attention to things that feel better, to things you can control.\u00a0 You may not be able to control what your co-worker says or does, but you can most certainly choose what you say and do.\u00a0 You may not be able to choose how your co-worker perceives you, but you can most certainly choose how you perceive her.\u00a0 Instead of focusing your attention on what you don\u2019t like about her, consciously focus your attention on what you do like about her.\u00a0 And I get it, that may be difficult at first, but I urge you to give it a try.\u00a0 Even the smallest of things, do you like her hair color?\u00a0 Perhaps she has a nice smile, or she actually does her job really well.\u00a0 Furthermore, shift your attention to things you like about yourself, who are you being when you feel you are being your higher self?\u00a0 What are you grateful for in your life?\u00a0 In your job?\u00a0 What things in your life are occurring that you wouldn\u2019t label as \u201ca problem\u201d?<\/p>\n

All of these things, including other things such as meditating, journaling, spending time with people you love, doing things you love to do, help shift the energy.\u00a0 And, while it may appear that you are not directly addressing the problem, you\u2019re right, you\u2019re not.\u00a0 In other words, you are no longer looking at it as a problem, and in time, it no longer is experienced as a problem.\u00a0 Trust me, I\u2019ve seen it happen time and time again.<\/p>\n

One more thought for you, Janelle: when you find yourself thinking about this co-worker, try just sending her positive, loving energy, just as she is.\u00a0 Silently bless her, and show her the greatest demonstration of love possible by allowing her to walk the path her soul has chosen to walk at this point.\u00a0 Remember, in the largest picture, your soul and her soul have already made an agreement to help each other out in this lifetime, to give each other a certain experience of yourselves through one another.\u00a0 For a deeper explanation of this, check out \u201cThe Little Soul and the Sun\u201d, by Neale Donald Walsch.<\/p>\n

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(Nova Wightman is a CWG Life Coach, as well as the owner and operator of Go Within Life Coaching, <\/em>www.gowithincoaching.com<\/em><\/a>, specializing in helping individuals blend their spirituality with their humanity in a way that makes life more enjoyable, easy, and fulfilling.\u00a0 She can be reached at Nova@theglobalconversation.com. )<\/em><\/p>\n

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