Lately it seems like I\u2019m surrounded with sadness, tragedy, drama, and heavy, heavy emotions.\u00a0 Most of the time\u00a0this is coming from people around me, as I am usually the one my friends and family go to when something is troubling them.\u00a0 Right now it\u2019s more than usual, and with the tragedies happening in the world lately I\u2019m not quite sure how to handle any of it, I feel so overwhelmed by how bad things really seem to be right now.\u00a0 How do I handle the heaviness of it all and help make a difference?!<\/i><\/p>\n
Juan, Pennsylvania<\/i><\/p>\n
Hi Juan,<\/p>\n
I hear you, and I agree with you, there seems to be a lot more upheaval right now than usual, or at least many of us are more aware of it that usual.\u00a0 And with Monday\u2019s explosions in Boston a lot of people are at a loss as to what to do.\u00a0 I encourage you to read Neale\u2019s headline article of this newspaper, which you can access here.<\/a>\u00a0 It offers great insight, hope and solutions as to what we as a whole can do, how we can help shift the way humanity has been living.\u00a0 In terms of dealing with the emotions of it all, read on.<\/p>\n When problems arise, or tragedy strikes, we are often left with shocked and outraged reactions, as well as with a lot of desperate questions (\u201cwho would do such thing\u201d, \u201cwhy doesn\u2019t somebody do something about this\u201d, \u201cwhat else could go wrong?\u201d etc.).\u00a0 This is our way of recognizing that we are not okay with what happened, we are not in alignment with this, and it\u2019s a perfectly normal response.\u00a0 Those emotions and reactions can be really difficult to deal with, and if they\u2019re not processed or dealt with properly, can turn into depression, despair, extreme fear and hopelessness, among other things.\u00a0 When not dealt with or processed, they also contribute to the problem, not the solution.<\/p>\n So the trick to dealing with these emotions, then, is to first acknowledge what you\u2019re feeling and let whatever that is be okay \u2013 meet yourself where you\u2019re at, talk to someone, journal about it.\u00a0 But don\u2019t stay there.\u00a0 Instead, ask yourself, \u201cWho am I in light of this?\u00a0 Who do I want to be here?\u201d\u00a0 Then find ways to express and demonstrate that.\u00a0 This is when our normal initial \u201creactions\u201d turn into conscious creation.<\/p>\n Furthermore, make it your business to focus on nothing but love, gratitude, kindness and compassion, and express that, too.\u00a0 Energetically speaking, this is the most powerful thing we can do in such situations, whether it\u2019s in response to a worldwide tragedy or some trouble in your personal life.\u00a0 Focusing on the negative aspects simply magnifies them, draws more negativity, and as I said above, contributes to the problem.\u00a0 Shifting your attention to the good consistently raises your vibration, and the vibration of the world, contributing to the solution.<\/p>\n Let\u2019s be clear about something, though, this is not what some refer to as a \u201cspiritual bypass\u201d, an increasingly popular term some people in New Age and New Thought arenas like to use to describe using positivity as avoiding and ignoring the problem, invalidating the emotions that come up.\u00a0 That\u2019s not what this is at all.\u00a0 Remember, my very first suggested step here was to acknowledge how you feel and let it be okay.\u00a0 What we\u2019re doing here is transforming those emotions, or energy (emotions = energy in motion), into something more useful.\u00a0 Instead of wallowing in despair, hopelessness, and frustration, we are choosing to raise our vibration and get into alignment with Who We Really Are, and it is from this place that we gain clarity and access to the actions we can take, from a place of love instead of fear.\u00a0 <\/i><\/p>\n I believe this is how we transform the fear, hate, violence and separation in the world (both on a large, worldwide scale and smaller, personal scale) into love, peace, compassion and unity.\u00a0 It starts with each of us, the individual, doing our part, taking responsibility for our role in this Universe.\u00a0 So I challenge you, Juan, and anyone else who may be reading this, to take the steps above.\u00a0 And when you reach that place of clarity, love and alignment, see what you\u2019re inspired to do from there.\u00a0 Perhaps it\u2019s joining a cause or organization that is taking specific steps towards a solution, perhaps it\u2019s coming up with a brand new one no one has ever thought of.\u00a0 Or perhaps it\u2019s a deep shift within you where kindness, love, and compassion towards all becomes your first language from now on.<\/p>\n Thanks for being willing to do your part, Juan.<\/p>\n (Nova Wightman is a CWG Life Coach, as well as the owner and operator of Go Within Life Coaching, <\/i>www.gowithincoaching.com<\/i><\/a>, specializing in helping individuals blend their spirituality with their humanity in a way that makes life more enjoyable, easy, and fulfilling.\u00a0 She can be reached at Nova@theglobalconversation.com. )<\/i><\/p>\n (If you would like a question <\/i>considered for publication, please submit your request to: Advice@TheGlobalConversation.com, where our team is waiting to hear from you.)<\/i><\/p>\n