Dear Therese,<\/i><\/p>\n
My 85-year-old grandmother lives on her own and is in good health for her age, but with the heat of the summer upon us, I am worried for her.\u00a0 She just barely makes it by on her SS check, and can\u2019t afford air-conditioning.\u00a0 I\u2019m not in a position financially to take on her electric bill if she turned on the AC. \u00a0I am married and have two children. \u00a0I really like what Neale says about helping others, but what am I supposed to do?<\/i><\/p>\n
Geena in TX<\/i><\/p>\n
Dear Geena,<\/p>\n
Let me begin with the practical things to do, that you may have already thought of….<\/p>\n
I see you are in Texas, and I just moved from Houston, so I know that the power company has a program that encourages people to pay at least $1 extra to help seniors who cannot afford air-conditioning.\u00a0 Perhaps such a program exists in your area and you can help your mother apply for it?\u00a0 I also read that there is a federal program for such assistance.<\/p>\n
( Paraphrased from an article called \u201cThe Savvy Senior,\u201d by Jim Miller)<\/p>\n
Next, make sure you are aware of the things, other than the actual heat, that contribute to the risk of heat-related illnesses, such as medications (diuretics, high blood pressure meds that can cause dehydration), being overweight, underlying illnesses like diabetes, certain heart issues, and trouble walking around.<\/p>\n
Make yourself aware of how to prevent heat exhaustion.\u00a0 Don\u2019t wear tight clothing.\u00a0 Hydrate, and avoid alcohol and caffeine.\u00a0 Take frequent cool showers, apply cool water and ice packs to your skin.\u00a0 Avoid sun exposure, and drink water even when you do not feel thirsty!<\/p>\n
Spend time in public places, and check to see if your area has a local health department\u00a0 air-conditioned shelter.<\/p>\n
Okay, that is the practical.\u00a0 How about the spiritual in all of this?<\/p>\n
As you alluded to, CWG says that our purpose in life is to serve others.\u00a0 We must be sure of who we are, and fill ourselves, of course, but we do this so that we may serve others well.<\/p>\n
With that in mind, have you and your husband considered asking your mother to live with you? \u00a0Assuming this is possible.\u00a0 Even if you have limited space, many cultures share bedrooms.\u00a0 Grandchild and grandparent, for example.\u00a0 If not full-time move in, how about on particularly hot days or months?\u00a0 You have 2 children, \u00a0and many believe (as does CWG) that by taking advantage of the wisdom of the elders, it lessens the burden on the parents, gives the children a much larger view of life, and gives the elders a purpose.\u00a0 In short, it models \u201cwe are all One\u201d in a very real, close to home, way. \u00a0In fact, it is the perfect way to change the current paradigm of separateness that permeates our western cultures these days. \u00a0We can’t usually share what we believe with the whole world, but we can show our own children that there is a different way!<\/p>\n
You would be serving your mother by doing any of the things mentioned above, but perhaps you might want to take the last step, too?\u00a0 Your mother\u2019s pride might get in the way of her accepting the offer initially, but, if it is something you are willing to do, be sure to keep the offer open. \u00a0 Maybe even have a trial period. \u00a0 If she does move in, be open to change and new ways of doing things.\u00a0 This kind of situation does present challenges, but it also gives abundant opportunity for deciding who you really are…and acting on that decision.<\/p>\n
Geena, you may find that your mother\u2019s apparent helplessness is her greatest gift to you, to your children, and to the world.<\/p>\n
Therese<\/p>\n
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