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I\u2019m struggling with a recent choice I\u2019ve made, and desperately trying to find my spiritual center here, as it is pretty clear I can\u2019t go back on this decision.\u00a0 I entered into a business agreement\/partnership that I was at first really excited and happy about and am now feeling full of fear, doubt, and maybe even some regret.\u00a0 I feel stuck in this decision, and I\u2019m confused by how confident I felt when I made it and how I\u2019m so not right now.\u00a0 Not sure what I\u2019m asking here, I guess I just want to know how to deal with something that I\u2019ve created and am feeling lost about.<\/i><\/p>\n
Michelle, Tampa<\/i><\/p>\n
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Hi Michelle,<\/p>\n
In my book, there are few feelings as bad as the one you get when you think you\u2019ve made a mistake \u2013 it\u2019s torture!\u00a0 I feel for you, I do, but I also have some very good news: there is no right or wrong choice here.\u00a0 There is the choice you make, the meaning you give it, and where you choose to place your focus from there.\u00a0 These 3 ingredients heavily impact your experience of the choice you\u2019ve made, and more good news, you are completely in control of that.<\/p>\n
It sounds to me like what you are asking for here is how to feel good about your choice, or at least your current experience.\u00a0 It doesn\u2019t hurt to mention that if backing out is something you truly want and believe is the best for you, it is always possible; when there\u2019s a will there\u2019s a way and all that good stuff, but I personally look at it as more of a giving \u201cthe how\u201d of it over to the Universe or God to figure out.\u00a0 But to be honest with you, Michelle, that\u2019s not really the vibe I\u2019m getting here.\u00a0 I could be wrong, but let\u2019s go with it anyway.<\/p>\n
It is completely normal to feel scared out of our minds and filled with fear, doubt, anxiety, worry, etc. after making a life-altering decision, and I\u2019m guessing that\u2019s a large part of why you can\u2019t connect to that original enthusiasm and excitement you felt when making this business decision.\u00a0 Conversations with God says that there is no right or wrong, no should or shouldn\u2019t, there isn\u2019t even an absolute truth.\u00a0 Life has no meaning, in fact, save the meaning we give it.\u00a0 So how do we go about making decisions from that understanding?\u00a0 CWG also says that your own truth about something will be your highest thought, your highest feeling about something, which I like to translate into if it feels good, it\u2019s right. Remember, Michelle, it felt really good when you made this decision.\u00a0 The fact that it doesn\u2019t so much now doesn\u2019t necessarily point to it being the wrong decision after all; like I said, it\u2019s more than likely a very normal reaction to a big change in your life.<\/p>\n
So if you can accept all of that to be true (and it\u2019s totally okay if you don\u2019t, at the very least use it as a context to decide even more clearly what is true for you), then it all comes down to those last two ingredients I spoke of : choosing the meaning (and I recommend choosing something that feels good) and then consciously and diligently placing your focus on the parts that you like, and avoiding the rest like the plague.\u00a0 Put another way, if the meaning you decide this experience is that it is indeed the right choice for you, and it\u2019s completely natural for you to freak out a bit and that\u2019s okay, spend your time and energy focusing on and turning up the volume on the things about this business agreement that excite you, that are attractive to you, that light you up.\u00a0 Turn it up so loud that you can\u2019t even hear the rest (fear, doubt, uncertainty, etc.), in fact, turn the volume down on that stuff!<\/p>\n
It is entirely in your power to enjoy and feel good about this decision, Michelle, any decision really.\u00a0 Look at this as some really good and really BIG practice.<\/p>\n
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