My friend Kimberly gets all the guys and all the money while I\u2019m always struggling to pay the bills and never meet any men I like. It\u2019s not fair. I don\u2019t get it! She always seems to find the best-looking, nicest guys, and if it doesn\u2019t work out, she meets another one in no time. And she doesn\u2019t have to work because she always gets plenty of money from her ex-husband, while I\u2019m always slaving away, trying to make ends meet. I love her a lot but can\u2019t help feeling jealous and it\u2019s starting to affect our relationship. \u2026 Lori<\/i><\/p>\n
Dear Lori\u2026 I can certainly understand why you are feeling frustrated in this relationship, but the good news is, I have a key that can unlock a whole new way of looking at this AND help you start to have similar experiences to hers.<\/p>\n
You say you are feeling jealousy, so I invite you to work toward changing that feeling to envy. Here\u2019s why: Jealousy is detrimental to our well-being, while envy is healthy and inspiring. Envy is one of the Five Natural Emotions. It\u2019s what makes you want to do what someone else is doing, knowing that you CAN. It\u2019s what makes you get back on the bike after you fall off, because others have demonstrated that they can stay on it! If we become resentful that they can stay on the bike when we can\u2019t, that\u2019s when we become jealous. Envy continually repressed becomes jealousy, a very unnatural emotion. If you continue to feel jealous and resentful of Kimberly, it may, indeed, undermine your relationship.<\/p>\n
The key is simple: Change your thought from \u201cIt\u2019s not fair that she gets all the guys and money she wants\u201d to, \u201cIf she can do it, I can too!\u201d Allow her experience of life to inspire you instead of depress you. Let it serve as a springboard for creating similar experiences in your own life, because the truth is, there is nothing you cannot have as long as you realize it. And if she really is the friend you say she is, I\u2019m sure she will be happy to tell you how she does it! Even if she doesn\u2019t fully understand the metaphysical reasons behind her money and men friend manifestations, I would bet that something she says when relating her experiences to you will light a spark of understanding that will help you not only no longer feel jealous, but will give you ideas about how you, too, can have all the men and money you want for yourself.<\/p>\n
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