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“I am so lonely, and I want so much for someone to love me. I’ve been trying so hard to be centered and forgiving and understanding of others. I need someone to understand me for a change. My friends say that I am too negative and that my words have energy. What do they mean?” C.L.
Dear C.L.
When you are in the situation where it seems like everything you desire from life is being kept from you, it is difficult to see just how words reflect where we are sending our energy. From a distance, however, one can see where your energy resides. In “want” and “need” and “try.” What we often can not see, when we want and we need, is that we get exactly what we ask for…want and need. There is a quote attributed to Dr. Michael Beckwith, “Trying is failing with self-protected honor.” Always, in reality, honoring the possibility of failing, and not honoring what you are actually doing and desiring.
C.L., one of the least understood things about the Universe, is that its greatest desire is to give you exactly what you ask for. It has no judgment as to how good or bad it is for your life. It only knows what you are giving your energy to. Are you giving your energy to want and need? Voila! The Universe joyfully gives you want and need!
(Now, I am not saying that every time we use those words we are going to be asking for want and need. Let me be clear that I know we use all words casually, and they have no impact on what we are energetically asking for.)
The power of words is by no means simply a personal thing. Since this is the end of a particularly vocal political season here in the United States, let me share my personal observations of the energy of words on a larger group of society.
During the last election, I was asked if I really believed the words I was hearing. Words like hope, change, “Yes, we can!” Yes, I did.
This election I have been asked if those words don’t now ring hollow.
My answer is that those words still have power. It doesn’t even matter if the person saying them believes them, it matters if the person hearing them believes them. The words “hope and change,” the words “change starts with you and works up,” the words of Ghandi, “Be the change you wish to see,” affected me, and others, greatly. Those words caused me to do things in my own life, and in my own community to make my world a better place, and caused others to do the same thing. Those words caused me to move away from fear and hatred, and the feeling of being divided from my fellow American, and into a powerful, unifying energy, symbolized by those words.
So, in this election cycle, I look at the power of the words being used. I listen to my body when I hear the words of people who would represent me and my country. Do I feel hopeful and motivated, or do I feel fearful and immobilized? Do I feel I want to reach out to my fellow human being, or do I want to protect myself and my things? Do I look at others as part of Divinity, or do I look at them as opponents and enemies?
C.L., we are all letting the energy of our thoughts and words enter into our every day lives, so you are definitely not alone in not understanding the power of those words. What energy are you sending out most powerfully? I would suggest you change to words like, wish, hope and prefer…prefer to have a certain thing or outcome, but do not expect anything in any certain way. This keeps you open to whatever way the Universe wishes to give to you.
What we also often fail see is that the energy of our words doesn’t stop with us. From us that energy expands to our family, community, country and our world.
Most of us are using this power process unconsciously.
My advice would be to know that we can all change this, and that the change does begin with us. We can change how we use our words and the thought we have associated with those words.
In “When Everything Changes, Change Everything” it says:
“An event is one thing; your reality of it is another. Events are created by conditions and occurrences outside you. Reality is created by conditions and occurrences inside you—in your mind. It is here that events are turned into data, which are turned into truths, which are turned into thoughts, which are turned into emotions, which are turned into experiences, which form your reality.”
Words, you see, are the expression of our thoughts. If we can make a change, right there in the process, imagine how different our reality might be…personally and globally.
Therese
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Now, negative thoughts and frustrations will, and do, come in from time to time, sometimes a lot more if we’ve made them a kind of unconscious habit. However, this is not necessarily a bad thing; it’s just a part of how we currently process life. It’s often very temporary, and it’s okay to feel these frustrations. We can even break these negative thinking habits by the practice of patience, forgiveness, loving kindness, and compassion we show on and toward ourselves and others.
The trouble is we tend to be culturally conditioned to focus on them too much and stay in them too long. This is when they can become unhealthy and less beneficial.
I suggest instead to acknowledge them – thank them, if you will – for pointing out that there’s something going on that you don’t prefer. Thus, your negative thoughts, feelings, and frustrations are letting you know you desire change.
Now, you can also practice and remember that you don’t have to get caught up in, or stay so focused on, those temporary negative thoughts and feelings. Instead, just be more aware that they actually are wise friends, pointing you toward what you do prefer.
Negative thoughts, in fact, can have a very positive benefit! They have an important message.
They are simply pointing out, or letting you know, that something is important enough to create a feeling energy in you to “course-correct” yourself, if you choose.
What would happen if you now saw your negative thoughts and frustrations as your spirit hinting strongly that it’s asking for an adjustment attunement from you to get you to a place of peace and harmony? Wow! We were never taught that in school or at home! That’s your spirit directing you to course correction.
Frustrations, irritations, annoyances, setbacks, anger, pain, interruptions, BIG or small, can be seen as energy bursts that happen as we desire to better our lives, become more peaceful, balanced, whole and prosperous, etc. These frustrations and so forth come to us in answer to our desires to improve our lives, and they can help us get there more quickly by the high energy charge they give us. We see them as negative, but that is our culturally conditioned judgment we place on them.
If we allow it, we see that this is life calling us in answer to our spiritual life improvements we desire to have. It doesn’t have to always come in the guise of negative thoughts, frustrations, etc. Yet if and when it does, we can use them for our benefit rather than our determent. That shows we are ready to move ahead with better improvements with our lives, which is why they come in the first place.
We are indoctrinated into believing that negative thoughts and feelings are bad, that they create bad energy and experiences; whereas, another more beneficial way to look at them, or use them, is that they are showing us that something is important enough to us to cause such a strong energy, and by the feelings they create, they can powerfully move us to positive, beneficial, and welcome change.
They get us there more quickly than when things are going so-so. These are powerful energy movers that are created or called forth for our betterment. They are here to motivate and show us the way to living the life we so desire. That is their divine cosmic purpose. That is their gift and blessing we often overlook.
But not anymore!
We have another way to see and perceive negative thoughts and feelings. They are secretly disguised course-correctors, the GPS from our spirit to direct us to more positive lives and experiences.
When we are ready and open enough in our hearts and minds and, thus, look more deeply into life, we see that it is set up in such a way that it works and plays in our ultimate favor. The negative is here for contrast and free will choosing. As we dive and peer deeply into the cosmic microscope, we see that good is actually behind and underneath it all. Wow!
The mind can’t usually conceive this, but the heart, your spirit, your soul, your true self can. That’s what led you here to begin with, don’t you think? That is, to place within your current experience an alternative and beautiful way to see life as an expression of Original Blessing and Original Grace. This article is an answer to your call for understanding. That’s what the angels tell me anyway.
Using negative thoughts and feelings in this way eventually can become so habitual that we will eventually have less need to have thoughts show up negatively as we gain more wisdom. Yet using the wisdom, gifts, and blessings behind the seeming negatives works and plays for our benefit, our improved joy in life. Such is the secret wisdom behind the seeming negative if we but look and honor it.
That’s a win-win!
(Marko Damkoehler is an artist/writer/musician and creator of markoworld.com, as well as an avid student of CwG. He is also one of the Spiritual Helper Moderators on the changingchange.net website.)
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