Hard to Stay Happy

It seems like every time I find myself feeling really good and happy about my life, it is short-lived.  One minute I’ll be happy and in no time at all something will happen to throw me into a tailspin and I don’t know which way is up! How can I stay happy for longer periods of time?

~ Melissa, Indiana

Dear Melissa,

First of all, I so know what you’re going through!  Truth is, we all do.  What you are experiencing is the Law of Opposites at work; that is, as soon as you make a declaration to the Universe (i.e. “I am happy.”), its exact opposite will show up in some way.  Admittedly, this experience can be frustrating, especially if you aren’t aware of what’s really going on.  But the existence of this law isn’t to punish or to deter us, it actually helps us create what we want in life.

Allow me to explain.  The Law of Opposites is based on the principle: “In the absence of that which you are not, that which you are, is not.”  In other words, you cannot know yourself as happy unless you know of the experience of sadness.  If you were happy all the time, and were only surrounded by happiness, you would cease to even know what happiness really is.  But when its opposite shows up, and you experience that contrast, your experience of happiness becomes greater.  So you see, the Law of Opposites works in harmony with what you are trying to create more of.  The key is to recognize what’s happening and choose happiness again.

So the next time you have this experience, in whatever context, try this:

~ The moment you notice the seemingly not-so-great stuff showing up in your world, take the time to stop and recognize what’s happening.  Choose to see it as the Law of Opposites doing its part to bring you what you have called forth.  If you dare to, choose to see the “bad” stuff as a sign that the process of creation is indeed working, and say “thank you.”

~ Make a new choice, or rather, choose your original thought again.  For example, if your original declaration was “I am happy”, then choose it again, and focus on everything that is alignment with happiness.  Make the conscious choice to not give any more energy to the negative stuff that is appearing in your reality.

~ Pat yourself on the back for being the creator of your own experience.

I’m not saying applying any of this is easy, unless it is, of course.  But I am saying with a little conscious thought, intention and awareness, you can have an entirely different experience than the one you mentioned in your question.  Good luck!

 

(Nova Wightman is a CWG Life Coach, as well as the owner and operator of Go Within Life Coaching, www.gowithincoaching.com, specializing in helping individuals blend their spirituality with their humanity in a way that makes life more enjoyable, easy, and fulfilling.  She can be reached at Nova@theglobalconversation.com. )

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  • Christopher Toft

    Additionally, it may well be worth your while Melissa, to read Neale’s book “When everything changes, change everything” as this goes into detail about living harmoniously within the law of opposites.

  • The law of opposites do not always have to be “experienced” but simply to notice them & choose again. I would say they are also part of your choosing more of the good stuff & simply in doing so, you notice the other stuff still showing up. Opposites are also temporary.

    However, in time you will see less of the opposites as you increase your consistency of your happiness or peace etc.

    I often live in peace, harmony, abundance, and lately perfect timing. The bad stuff shows up much less, and when it does, it fades more quickly.

    To me, the more consistent we are in choosing our states of beingness whatever they are be it happy, peace, prosperity, health, relations etc. we will maintain & sustain them much longer.

    Also, as you grow larger challenges or opposites can come up & again, but if you don’t buy into them and simply notice them & choose again, it’s one way to sustain & maintain you state of happiness etc.

    Magical blessings,
    -Marko

  • Joyce Derby

    I’ve had the same question as Melissa. Thanks, Nova, for answering this question.