France proposes banning words ‘mother’ and ‘father’ as part of gay marriage legalization

Thank you, France, for demonstrating that, YES, our world IS evolving and moving towards a more loving and accepting society, breaking through the intolerant barriers of an Old Cultural Story which dictates in what form love is to be experienced and expressed and moving into a New Cultural Story where couples of all genders are free to experience and enjoy the rights and privileges afforded to ALL loving relationships.

According to a recent article in The Telegraph, “France is set to ban the words “mother” and “father” from all official documents under new plans to legalize gay marriage,” giving equal adoption rights to homosexual and heterosexual couples.

Justice Minister Christiane Taubira told France’s Catholic newspaper, La Croix, “Who is to say that a heterosexual couple will bring up a child better than a homosexual couple, that they will guarantee the best conditions for the child’s development?”

As expected, this proposed law is being met with vehement resistance by members of the Catholic Church.  “Gay marriage would herald a complete breakdown in society,” Cardinal Philippe Barbarin, the head of the French Catholic Church, told Christian’s RFC radio last week.  He is further quoted as saying, “This could have innumerable consequences. Afterward they will want to create couples with three or four members. And after that, perhaps one day the taboo of incest will fall.”

Wow, is the suggestion really being made that the legalized union of two loving same-sex mutually consenting adults is one step shy of a parent engaging in sexual relations with their own child or brother or aunt?    And perhaps I’m confused, but isn’t it heterosexuals who have been historically, and still are even to this day, entering into multiple-partner relationships?  What does THAT type of irrational conjecture have to do with a same-sex partnership being afforded the opportunity to be a legally and socially recognized union?

And just WHEN and HOW did God’s glorious gift of sex become a tool to be used to judge, control, manipulate, bring shame upon, and condemn?  Do we honestly imagine a God who created the possibility of deeply felt love to exist between two souls – whether that is a man and a man, a woman and a man, or a woman and a woman – only to then be judged and punished for simply being who they areWhat is it that we are actually afraid of here? 

I applaud this bold step forward the country of France is proposing, a step that embraces the forward movement of The New Spirituality and celebrates everyone’s ability to enter freely and fully into a legally recognized union that supports at an equal level the depth of their love and the holy union of their souls.

 

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15 responses to “France proposes banning words ‘mother’ and ‘father’ as part of gay marriage legalization”

  1. Therese Avatar
    Therese

    Oh, yes, Lisa! I thank you for this article! My best friends are a lesbian couple, and knowing that they can not marry breaks my heard. They have children, but only because one woman did not (was not allowed to, culturally) acknowledge her sexuality and was twice married.

    Recently, their friends, a gay couple, have begun the process of adoption, and actually have a child placed with them…sort of. ONE of the men is being allowed to, technically, adopt the child, and the other will have to wait X # of years before he can apply to co-adopt. Additionally, when the foster family, a self described “good Christian” family, found out that it was a gay man wishing to adopt the child, they hid the child and tried to find a way to keep the child away from the sinful abomination of a homosexual.

    I don’t understand. How is it that straight people are so threatened by this? Clearly the survival of the species is no longer in question. From now to all eternity, with the technology we have at our disposal, the world could turn homosexual and the species would survive! “That would be assuming the power of God!” they would say…I would say…exactly.

    Therese

  2. Ionic Breeze Avatar
    Ionic Breeze

    oh yea. I think the Archive link at the side could also go to the top as a tab link, like real newspapers do. Where it is it takes up too much space.

    Thanks for putting it together. I look forward to reading it:)

    Love to all,
    Ionic Breeze

  3. Ionic Breeze Avatar
    Ionic Breeze

    oops! My first post got posted under the wrong link. It was supposed to be posted under “Comments from Readers”. Sorry guys. Didn’t mean to interrupt the conversation 🙂

  4. Erin/IAm Avatar
    Erin/IAm

    It would be very nice if we could diss the catagories of defines based on appearances & notions & preferences. We are what we are. And this particular subject…Marriage…should be re-defined entirely.

    It no longer serves good purpose as an ownership, nor as a viable tax shelter or quickie credit fix, nor as a means of immigrational amnesty or asset management. I see little purpose of ‘legal’ involvement in a personal relationship…unless, of course, it is as actually a business partnership.

    It is sad that there is even being considered the ‘need’ to bring in the names of Mother/Father as terms to be meddled with by legalities…how very silly & arrogant…I could think of many more pressing issues for a governance to be devoting their time & education to…like children in need of loving homes. (period!)

    Perhaps if we stopped calling ourselves anything other than simply ‘human’? Perhaps if we noted that there are many families that have survived & grown thru varied ‘transitions’…that there are many children raising children throughout the world…that Love is the key to quality Life, & who or what sources that Love is of little concern to the one seeking it.(?)

    In regard to the New Spirituality…Love is unconditional (no conditions, rules, laws). How one expresses that love & to whom, are personal & intimate choices. Children born of or adopted into love will thrive.

    Blessed be & Good Journey!:)

  5. Therese Avatar
    Therese

    My comment came from the day before this new format went live. Currently, I get the home page portion of the article, and the second half is nowhere to be seen when I click on to “see more”. Directly to comments with no content.

    T.

  6. Ionic Breeze Avatar
    Ionic Breeze

    Hi Lisa,

    What a lovely message! Thanks for the enlightened view. God is love in all forms of love. God is life in the form of love that houses a life between masculine and feminine, feminine and feminine, masculine and masculine. We are a form of all forms. We are a seed of all seeds. God births all in an ever continuous moment. God births all life from a single seed of seeds bursting forth all life into more seeds of life. We are a seed of all seeds. We are a Central Sun of seeds bursting forth all Central Sun seeds. We are a seed one sun bursting forth all life for the one son who is a master of all ascended life, including mankind. All contain that heart within the core heart of it, be it Budha, Krishna or Christa or whoever, just include yourself in that mix.

    All life burst forth life into a single seed bursting forth all life that bursts forth into seeds bursting forth more life for life, including the lively seed that bursts forth life between the furthest split of the split of the first twin seed into masculine and feminine. Some masculine seeds decided to split more, just as some feminine seeds decided to split more for more life. Who are we to argue with a true heart that knows it is feminine at the core heart or masculine at the core heart.

    All get to decide what they are at the core heart in all life. God chooses what to experience as the all of God. If one says I am love for the feminine more than the masculine, then the one knows its name. If one says that’s my true heart speaking, who are we to say, “No. You are wrong. That can’t be. You don’t match me.” There are so many mes that we can’t even fathom it. Most studies show that true homosexuality was not learned but felt from an early age at a core level of being. Who is it that argues with that core level of anyone’s being? We can’t be judgmental, if we are true spiritual beings being what we truly are in all life. To be true to the core heart, one has to be life for all life living its true core heart of itself. Only itself knows itself in the highest, in whatever aspect it chooses to light upon in this life. Itself is life in all life’s multifaceted aspects. Which aspect do we choose to create a new aspect with in life? That’s the question only a true heart can answer. We create new aspects as we come together with each other in the ever present creative moment of Now. Wowee! That’s something. We create life as we beget life as we define life here in this room even. Every room is a life begetting life.

    One must always follow one’s heart throughout all life. The true heart is all life. If a feminine love is true love with another feminine, it is true because it knows it is true. If a life knows a life is love, all life hears a cry of a true heart of love speaking its true name. All life knows a true life is a true love speaking its name throughout all life. If a love lives a true love throughout all life, all love benefits. All life benefits as all hearts lift their hearts to the true heart they are in the one true heart of all love. All love lifts in the love of all true love lifting all true love. It’s a love that calls itself true love that calls itself true to the heart of all true love. It’s a true love that lifts all true lively loves of the lively true line of love living only true love. Hi We are many lives living one true love life. Who do we choose to live, when we say, “I am only truly love for you and you, and your true love is wrong to me in all life.” Phew! Judgment begets judgment. What a web we weave for all life when we judge another true love of all life.

    Only a true love needs nothing. Only a true love knows it is the call of the true heart of true love. Only a true love calls a true heart to a true heart calling all hearts true, and all without a sound. Sound of a heart call is silent in the heart calling all hearts to the one true call of all True Love in the highest heart of Chista named Christ I Am. I Am is a call of the heart that calls all hearts without uttering a sound. A sound of silence is a true heart call. We move as we groove in life, and true love always grooves everywhere throughout all true love. A heart knows what a true heart knows, and it needs no sound but the sound of the true wild call of a first heart of first love sounds at zero.

    That heart lives inside all and it is alive for all who heed that call of the wild heart call of all love. We are a call to the wildest, truest heartiest heart of all calls of the true wild call of the heart of one love. What call do we call true? What call do we call a call of a true heart? I call all calls that call a true heart a calling heart for all true hearts of the one call of Life itself. I Am is the lift of the heart call of all love. We are the true heart of all life calling all home to the one true heart call lifting all true hearts of I Am. When we say, “A heart is not true to itself,” we say we know that heart better than heart’s I Amness knows its own I Amness, and that isn’t love, not in the highest. All hearts true to itself are true to the I Amness within that heart. The one true heart truest to all true hearts of one love is the true I Am Heart of Chista. All life is true to itself, when it knows it is true to the truest heart of Life. I am calls all hearts home to the one call of life calling home all true heart of true love. Only a true heart speaks a heart of truth needing no spoken word to speak a heart of truth. God speaks through the heart that speaks its true heart louder and louder. Turn the volume up and up and up, by listening to the true heart call of all hearts calling all hearts home to the truest heart of I Amness.

    A true love is a love needing nothing. A true love is a true love living love for everything. A true love is true in the heart of life if it is the true heart of one true life. That true life is unconditional love. Unconditional love needs not a thing. That life is the life needing no thing. That life is the real thing. Love knows love is the only real thing without ever uttering a word, a sound of love at all. Love knows love is Isness in the silence between words. Who decides when Isness is wrong? Only a look back at a fear fall that wasn’t real, only a fall back at a fearful step down that couldn’t hold a true step up of life’s lift off of all life for one love, only a level down that couldn’t up the level up to the heart up of all mankind. Only a fear of all life calls love wrong in all life. Only a fear speaks life as fear instead of love. Only love sees love in all life as love in a step up to a heart up of gold, a heart up of life in all life up, as one living heart up of one love in the up, up, up of all life. All life is a step up for all life when all life ups the steps up for all life, and says, I Am all life. I Am I Am. I Am here for you, all life. I Am you, Life. All life steps up when all life steps up and says I Am all that I Am.

    We are no fall back in life, unless we fall back to say love is wrong in life. Why call love wrong? Who says so? God is love is life is where God says love lives as life as love. Love lives everywhere God lives. God lives in all aspects coming together in the unique patterning that those two aspects create as they come together throughout all life. No two are alike. All are uniquely divinely patterned throughout all life. We say God is not there, but whose patterning, whose reflection are we looking at? Not mine. I don’t accept a false pattern that speaks a false reflection of a false fear of a reflection. I Am I Am. No reflection is true to my heart that speaks ill will of another reflection reflecting its truest heart. I don’t speak the highest heart of me, if I call another heart wrong or not here for all life. I know my I Am heart does not call a heart of love wrong. My heart knows my heart lifts when all life experiences as many true combinations of uniquenss throughout all life as a union of love not fear.

    My I Am heart is you. You are my I Am heart. My I Am heart lives I Am hearts for every I Am heart reading this word on this page. No I Am heart meeting this word meets another I Am heart to call it false. No I Am heart meets another I Am heart to call it wrong. No heart meeting another I Am heart truly meets another I Am heart, if it calls an I Am heart wrong or right. Only a true heart accepts all unions of all true hearts coming together as a union of unique divine imprint throughout all lovely life. All hearts coming together, including all aspects in this room coming together with all other aspects hearing these words create a life, a force, a love that moves life for all life. All aspects coming together to create a unique pattern here create a new aspect coming together with another aspect somewhere living everywhere. No union can be duplicated in any life. All duplications live in all life, if they are truly I Amness. Not even the union of the readers here coming together as one love can be duplicated in any life. This is a unique room but lives if it is one love throughout all life. There is no false life, unless one says it is. Only a false heart calls a heart of one love false. Only a fearful heart looks back at love and calls it false, saying love can’t be real there. I don’t accept a fear that looks back at another love and calls it fear not love.

    That fear is not anyone’s in real life. That’s not how the earth rises to end an old life. The earth rises to a new life when all calls to every aspect are called home by every aspect living to the true heart every aspect is in the truest heart of all life. All know who they are in the true heart. Only the knowing heart of all love knows the aspects are home in uniquely combined aspects that exist uniquely in one true heart living all other aspects as a heart of divinity. We are all divine. We come together in the knowing we come together to reunite. We reunite the true heart of life. We speak the truth of every aspect, when we allow every aspect to live its truth. We marry the heart of every true heart of truth, when we allow the heart speak to live its truth. What aspect marries other than its truest aspect? If another aspect calls another aspect false to the true heart that speaks the truest heart of all life, then that aspect is false to its true heart? Only marrying aspects can say what is true to the heart of it. God is a unique heart of all truly united hearts throughout all life. Every aspect in the truest heart in the home of its truest seed is married to divine split at zero hour of birth of all life. We are an aspected aspect of God’s unique heart divinely split in the one moment throughout all life living one love. We are I Am. I Am is everywhere living I Am through everyone living I Am.

    I say God lives everywhere. God lives between this and that, between here and there, between old and new, if that there lives the new day as I Amness from the true heart of one love. I prefer only this there as only new love for all life. I prefer to let go of old. I prefer to cling to new, to love, not fear. I prefer to let go of old and look no more at love looking back at love and calling it false. Life is all love. Love is everything in between all lives, life to life, death to death, here to there, from eternity to now here where all now heres exist as eternal circles of all life circling the one grand circle of the Great Central Sun of all suns circling all circles of all life. If a life wants to look back and find fault with another love of love, life looks back at its own circling mirror circling its own reflection not mine. My mirror rises above all reflective mirrors reflecting fear to love. I don’t live reflections of fear to life in any life. I Am a light reflecting only light for all lights choosing to flicker its truest heart light in whatever way it decides to flicker love light. Only the lighted flickering lights can decide what light lights more lights for all lighting lights throughout all lighted life. My mirror limits no mirrors reflelcting the truest heart. My mirror reflects all lights living the lightest, brightest, goldenest mirror of all lighted mirrors, the heart of gold of the God of us, the heart of all hearts of all Gods of all Gods of all life reflecting the heart that refleclts the heart of Gold of the Central Sun named God I Am. That heart lies within all hearts of Gold of all Sons of God, all daughters of God. Only the truest heart of Gold lifting a golden mirror to all sons and daughters of God mirror all life for the lifting life of love. We lift all lifts to the Golden sun within all Central sons of the Goldenst son as we lift to a new birth. Only the truest heart of God lifts all sI Am to the golden reflection of all golden reflections of all life living all love. All life living life as one love with all golden hearts of all reflected mirrors reflecting only golden light is my true heart named God I Am, and if that mirror is fine with him, why wouldn’t it be with me? Who am I to judge another mirror of one love?

    Where is the pure light of all love in all life when life views love as wrong anywhere in life? Where is the true heart of gold that lives life as love only between this or that thing? Why not all things as one thing? Why not a true heart of God living all hearts as one golden heart of one love? We are a true heart living oneness in all life with all true hearts living life as love as oneness. We are truly a heart of gold living all life in the mind of one love ,as we reflect all true reflections of life living uniqueness with all life. We are one life of many many glistening lives of one love. We can glisten as we listen to the true heart call that knows a true heart of love. We can allow love to glisten as love truly listens to its truest heart call to all life calls of one love throughout eternity.
    Every snowflake is pure light. Every heart is pure gold. Every heart, every snowflake glistens in the snow reflecting light in the light of God’s golden heart. Every heart of gold is God. Every aspect of God is a golden heart, an aspect living light that is pure golden love, if it lives its true golden light between every other golden heart of God. Every true heart meets a true heart light of divinity as it comes together with every other unique true heart in all God’s grandly multicolored, multihued, multifaceted heart of gold. All hearts of true love lift the one true heart of one love as it lifts the living life of one true light of Christ I Am. Which aspect do we accept as pure? Which is light? Which aspect do we reject as not God? I reject none. I live all aspects reading these pages as the lifting of the loft of the tipping point heart that lifts the highest loft lifting a pure heart of gold for all other golded aspects of the one true heart speaking of love as pure light with all other aspects living purely, lovely light of one love in the heart of the golden heart of God. I Am the heart of the heart of God, and so are you. We all are. Who is one to say, your heart of your heart is not love? Who are we to say love can ever be wrong? Noone who lives a pure heart calls another heart of love wrong, not in the heart of the highest life of life itself. Hi

    Sorry it’s long. I just spew it out for whoever wants to linger a bit. If you don’t like to linger, move on. No hard feelings 🙂

    Love to all Hi

    Ionic Breeze

  7. Laura Jean Pringle Avatar
    Laura Jean Pringle

    Omg, here we go again. Got lost in the sea of words from Ionic. (note to self- stop reading her posts!!!) (I’m assuming it’s a female, sorry if not). Please, just write a book, and keep your posts short, out of consideration of space/our brain’s capacity!!! What did I want to say? Oh yea. I want to thank the author for this article. Very revealing of our times.

  8. balayogi Avatar
    balayogi

    Can we ban the words Mother and Father?
    Every relationship has its own significance in the scheme of life. As human race and its life evolve it has to become more inclusive and tolerant. Neither fanatically holding on to tradition nor resorting to the fanatical extremism of rejecting every existing thing. That is a mere impulsive or emotional reaction and not a sane action. The sanctity of the relationship as well as the word Mother and Father cannot be done away with as a socio political objective as the promoters of the ban must realize they are replacing one barrier with their own set of barriers like abolishing words ‘ La mère’ et ‘Le père’. What these politicos and social scientist want his acceptance of Gay marriages. Let there be a Gay parent. Let us accept anomalies as they are and as facts and accept them with tolerance. If something happens, evolves in the process of evolution of any species then it has its own significance and logic for emerging and existing with dignity. Gay marriages too are such events. There are no such things such eternal taboos or eternal trends. All changes are inevitable, and they must be accepted as they are and we must try to get into understanding them better and deeper scientifically as to why it has happened, what is its importance and impact in the context of evolution of our species. Probably it could be something to enhance our species. We have not fully understood it well to take positions. We cannot deny or defy the importance of anything. The moment you react you stop to act. You feel that you have a passed another law, legally banned something and legally sponsored something but that does not necessarily assure understanding and conscious acceptance and the contrary promotes more psychological barriers and more violent psychological aversion as the human mind feels that in matters of at least personal relationship and the words it uses for expressing its love, reverence and sanctity for those relationships are a matter of personal freedom. The subtle differences, I would prefer to call them variations, of perceiving relationship actually transcend even words. But through words we communicate and express our feelings. Nowhere else I found this better explained and in a more simple way than in Camus’ L’Etranger. In the first chapter of those two different words ‘La Mere est decédee’ et ‘Maman est morte’ are very well depicted.
    So the emotional bond that the words Mother and Father cannot be a matter to be decided by any government and it applies to the words too. Just because I am born in a test tube my mother cannot be a test tube. Aberrations and anomalies have to be understood properly and tolerantly and attended to with unprejudiced acceptance. You can enforce social discipline and acceptance but not by enforcing emotional, psychological and linguistic curtailments.

  9. Jaz Avatar
    Jaz

    Wonderful, Lisa, and all. For all your being and doing in this world. I am grateful to you. Thank you.

  10. Michael L Avatar
    Michael L

    Hi Folks,

    How can a ban on something ,anything, be “Good”. Where did the freedom go?
    Each person can declare who they are in each moment of now , period.
    I would suggest that there is a big difference between A person and a biological Mother, who’s unconditional love can not be disputed.
    Me being a male, you can kick Father to the curb!!!!! Even though a biological one has some Connection in the DNA. Which has future ramification in the physical.

    Demanding change of the worlds judiao- christian religions , is a admirable quest. But as we have spoken here on this site before, the change has to come as a spiritual one. Force is not going to work. A more higher thought and feeling will.

  11. Suzanne Avatar
    Suzanne

    Thanks for this Lisa, some people just don’t get it do they? Recently here in Australia a politician was ejected from his party- a party which doesn’t support gay marriage- for suggesting that legalising gay marriage would lead to legalising bestiality.

  12. Frank Avatar
    Frank

    While I understand the intention of trying to be inclusive. I do not agree with banning words. I think that is a bad practice in every sense, the antithesis of freedom. If a new word tradition happens to “catch on” then fine! That’s NORMAL evolution. This is a forced idea that will offend as many as it will help or more. And having just become a Father for the first time, I have to say, I’m pretty fond of the title. Good intention, but not so good action I think.

    Love Always

    FSP

  13. doug clark Avatar
    doug clark

    Yea. Way to go France

  14. Jaz Avatar
    Jaz

    I do agree with Michael and Frank on this.. I, too, don’t not believe in banning anything. But to bring awareness around what or why of the importance of labeling anything.

  15. Carriou Myriam ( France ) Avatar
    Carriou Myriam ( France )

    Je constate que, malgré le ” conservisme ” de notre cher pays, les moralités changent… ET je le constate avec plaisir car je considère que des parents homo sont aussi capables d’élever des enfants que des parents hétéro… Parce que considérer que les homos sont des personnes à part entière, des humains, des semblables… qui s’aiment, est déjà un pas en avant pour que les mentalités changent… Parce qu’en effet, nous vivons toujours sur des anciens préjugés qui nous empêchent de voir et de considérer son prochain… Pour que nous puissions ” évoluer “, il faut ouvrir les yeux de ceux qui sont aveuglés par leurs préjugés et leurs a prioris…
    J’ai des amis homos…. ce sont des personnes normales, qui vivent normalement… et qui aiment normalement… J’aimerai que la tolérance et la considération soient un énoncé indispensable dans l’éducation de nos enfants… Pour que germe en eux cette petite graine de l’abondance de sentiments envers ceux qui ne rentrent pas dans un ” moule ” prédéfinis… Parce que nos différences font que nous sommes un monde merveileux et si intéressant…

    Merci Neale pour cette émotion que vous m’avez permis de mettre au grand jour… Je suis spirite et j’ai approfondis mes connaissances grâce à vous… Et je continues de ” m’éduquer ”

    Bien fraternellement à toutes et tous et à très vite pour une continuité dans nos conversations…

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